Learning how to hold
your temper in a fight isn't easy at all.And when you're done lashing out, you
realise later that maybe you should have been calm and composed instead of
throwing your temper on the person- be it your loved one, family e.t.c.
But here are a couple of tricks that will save you the trouble of being guilty after a fight.
Put yourself in the other's shoes
The best way to control your temper is by
trading places with the other person- the
one who is on the recieving end of your
fury.Think about what he/she must be
feeling while you are yelling or screaming
at them.This will help you control your
anger immediately and calm you down.
Is it worth your anger
Think about the problem that is making you so hyper.Is it really worth so much aggression? Think about the issue calmly whether it is worth all this madness that you are into.If the anwer is no, then put your energy into something else.Honestly, half of the fights most of us get into do not deserve that much energy and madness.
Talk about it
When you communicate about your problems to your loved ones or your family, half of the trouble is over, then and there.Talking about your expectations and what is hurting you can save up on unnecessary trouble.This saves up on a lot of time and will not sap your energy out of you for nothing.
Take deep breaths
Deep breathing will ease your mind and will help you think better about your problems.Just a couple of deep breaths and you will realise what exactly you've been trying to fight and why you are so angry.This one will save you from blowing up every time.
Walk away
The best and the last resort any fights, is to walk away from the problem.If you think that you are not in the condition to talk about the issue with your partner or your family, then just walk away from it.When you are okay, and on the right frame of mind to deal on the problem again, talk about it then.
But here are a couple of tricks that will save you the trouble of being guilty after a fight.
Put yourself in the other's shoes
The best way to control your temper is by
trading places with the other person- the
one who is on the recieving end of your
fury.Think about what he/she must be
feeling while you are yelling or screaming
at them.This will help you control your
anger immediately and calm you down.
Is it worth your anger
Think about the problem that is making you so hyper.Is it really worth so much aggression? Think about the issue calmly whether it is worth all this madness that you are into.If the anwer is no, then put your energy into something else.Honestly, half of the fights most of us get into do not deserve that much energy and madness.
Talk about it
When you communicate about your problems to your loved ones or your family, half of the trouble is over, then and there.Talking about your expectations and what is hurting you can save up on unnecessary trouble.This saves up on a lot of time and will not sap your energy out of you for nothing.
Take deep breaths
Deep breathing will ease your mind and will help you think better about your problems.Just a couple of deep breaths and you will realise what exactly you've been trying to fight and why you are so angry.This one will save you from blowing up every time.
Walk away
The best and the last resort any fights, is to walk away from the problem.If you think that you are not in the condition to talk about the issue with your partner or your family, then just walk away from it.When you are okay, and on the right frame of mind to deal on the problem again, talk about it then.
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