Humans by nature are competitive, creative,
calculative and callous. We are also dependent, overbearing, and wonderful and
friendly. But when it comes to business...You need to stay away from these type
of people.
1. Gist Carriers
It’s hard to resist inside information and gossip. Finding out the reasons behind someone’s decisions, the motivations behind someone’s actions, the inside scoop about someone’s hidden agenda–jeez, that stuff is hard to resist.
The problem is, the person who gives you the inside scoop on other people is also giving other people the inside scoop on you.
The people you want in your inner circle are willing to share the inside scoop on only their own thoughts or feelings–that’s not gossip, that’s just truth.
2. Fanatical Devotees
On the other end of the spectrum is the person who thinks your every thought and deed is astounding, amazing, incredible.
Unconditional praise is fun but rarely helpful. Hey! Get real. None of us are that smart, that insightful, or that talented. Often we do get it wrong. Often we do make mistakes. But often we don’t realize it until someone tells us.
It’s easy to tell someone he or she is great. It’s much, much harder to tell someone he or she can do better. It takes a real friend to say that and that’s who you need.
Don’t pay much attention to what your fanatical devotees have to say.
3. Devilish Advocates
Devilish advocates are rarely advocates for anything other than their own egos and points of view. “Voice of reason” is often just the voice of ego or the voice of a person who tried and failed and therefore thinks no one can–or more likely should–ever succeed.
Keep the people who ask smart questions, share lessons learnt and ways to do things differently, and offer to help you if a problem does pop up.
Get rid of the people who always forecast doom and gloom based solely on their bad experiences. People who only have pessimistic views to share can become a heavy stone in you golden egg-filled basket. Your results may vary because you aren’t them and you don’t need them.
4. Backstabbers
The people in your inside circle should have one another’s backs. You don’t need a backstabber on your team. They infiltrate your golden eggs, pass on offensive smells round and will eventually, crush your hard earn basket of opportunities.
Backstabbers have no one’s back but their own.
5. Ego Freaks
You don’t want to be in the company of people who thinks life begins and ends around them. This kind of people never supports a good decision made by any other person except them!
Self-interest is good. Enlightened self-interest is better. Self-centered just sucks to be around.
You would want to move your golden eggs away from their caucus. Don’t try to change their minds, Just move on. It’s easy.
They won’t even notice you’re gone as they will be busy counting making justifying their position.
6. Prophets with Premonitions
These set of people provides a thousand and one possible ways in which your brilliant idea will fail. They have the uncanny ability to foresee every stones and hammers that may want to crack up your golden eggs. But have no plausible answer to how to protect your business or investment.
Really, being in good business is a challenge in its own, you don’t need a constant reminder of the gravity of a failed deal- if any.
Granted, none of us want to make a mistake we could have avoided. But when someone always counters every single idea with a never-ending list of reasons it just won’t work, then he or she needs to go, because unreasonable doubt is the enemy of achievement.
If my idea truly won’t work, I definitely want to know. Tell me, tell me why, and then tell me what might work instead. Then you’re helping. Then we can go places together.
Otherwise, we should just go our separate ways.
7. Needy Folks
Yes, you need to repair your basket and give your golden eggs some good polishing to prevent them from cracking up.
What doesn’t make sense is when you need to “service” some personal and professional relationships or they fall apart: They need regular check-ins. They need regular contact so they can feel reassured that you still “care.” When they don’t get serviced, they make you feel you’ve somehow let them down.
In short, they’re needy.
Real professional relationships are based on only one kind of need: The people you truly want in your inner circle are there when you really need them–just like you are for them.
8. Everything Goes Buddies
Some people just drift like zombies. They take up any task, wander aimlessly from day to day and year to year with no plan, no purpose, no goal. They are just okay with every decision and directives.
This is disastrous! You may get bitten too.
Surround yourself with people who have ambitious plans and are driven by meaningful purposes. Their goals may be different from yours–and they probably will be–but you’ll feed off their energy, and they’ll feed off yours in a healthy, relaxed mode.
Stay away from the walking dead. They won’t kill you, but they’ll definitely kill your motivation and enthusiasm.
You’ve worked way too hard to build your golden basket. Do not let it go down while you watch
1. Gist Carriers
It’s hard to resist inside information and gossip. Finding out the reasons behind someone’s decisions, the motivations behind someone’s actions, the inside scoop about someone’s hidden agenda–jeez, that stuff is hard to resist.
The problem is, the person who gives you the inside scoop on other people is also giving other people the inside scoop on you.
The people you want in your inner circle are willing to share the inside scoop on only their own thoughts or feelings–that’s not gossip, that’s just truth.
2. Fanatical Devotees
On the other end of the spectrum is the person who thinks your every thought and deed is astounding, amazing, incredible.
Unconditional praise is fun but rarely helpful. Hey! Get real. None of us are that smart, that insightful, or that talented. Often we do get it wrong. Often we do make mistakes. But often we don’t realize it until someone tells us.
It’s easy to tell someone he or she is great. It’s much, much harder to tell someone he or she can do better. It takes a real friend to say that and that’s who you need.
Don’t pay much attention to what your fanatical devotees have to say.
3. Devilish Advocates
Devilish advocates are rarely advocates for anything other than their own egos and points of view. “Voice of reason” is often just the voice of ego or the voice of a person who tried and failed and therefore thinks no one can–or more likely should–ever succeed.
Keep the people who ask smart questions, share lessons learnt and ways to do things differently, and offer to help you if a problem does pop up.
Get rid of the people who always forecast doom and gloom based solely on their bad experiences. People who only have pessimistic views to share can become a heavy stone in you golden egg-filled basket. Your results may vary because you aren’t them and you don’t need them.
4. Backstabbers
The people in your inside circle should have one another’s backs. You don’t need a backstabber on your team. They infiltrate your golden eggs, pass on offensive smells round and will eventually, crush your hard earn basket of opportunities.
Backstabbers have no one’s back but their own.
5. Ego Freaks
You don’t want to be in the company of people who thinks life begins and ends around them. This kind of people never supports a good decision made by any other person except them!
Self-interest is good. Enlightened self-interest is better. Self-centered just sucks to be around.
You would want to move your golden eggs away from their caucus. Don’t try to change their minds, Just move on. It’s easy.
They won’t even notice you’re gone as they will be busy counting making justifying their position.
6. Prophets with Premonitions
These set of people provides a thousand and one possible ways in which your brilliant idea will fail. They have the uncanny ability to foresee every stones and hammers that may want to crack up your golden eggs. But have no plausible answer to how to protect your business or investment.
Really, being in good business is a challenge in its own, you don’t need a constant reminder of the gravity of a failed deal- if any.
Granted, none of us want to make a mistake we could have avoided. But when someone always counters every single idea with a never-ending list of reasons it just won’t work, then he or she needs to go, because unreasonable doubt is the enemy of achievement.
If my idea truly won’t work, I definitely want to know. Tell me, tell me why, and then tell me what might work instead. Then you’re helping. Then we can go places together.
Otherwise, we should just go our separate ways.
7. Needy Folks
Yes, you need to repair your basket and give your golden eggs some good polishing to prevent them from cracking up.
What doesn’t make sense is when you need to “service” some personal and professional relationships or they fall apart: They need regular check-ins. They need regular contact so they can feel reassured that you still “care.” When they don’t get serviced, they make you feel you’ve somehow let them down.
In short, they’re needy.
Real professional relationships are based on only one kind of need: The people you truly want in your inner circle are there when you really need them–just like you are for them.
8. Everything Goes Buddies
Some people just drift like zombies. They take up any task, wander aimlessly from day to day and year to year with no plan, no purpose, no goal. They are just okay with every decision and directives.
This is disastrous! You may get bitten too.
Surround yourself with people who have ambitious plans and are driven by meaningful purposes. Their goals may be different from yours–and they probably will be–but you’ll feed off their energy, and they’ll feed off yours in a healthy, relaxed mode.
Stay away from the walking dead. They won’t kill you, but they’ll definitely kill your motivation and enthusiasm.
You’ve worked way too hard to build your golden basket. Do not let it go down while you watch
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